A lot of people are under the impression that their relationships are all positive. What if I told you that a
significant chunk of your relationships are codependencies? These are people who basically want you
to remain where you are, frustrated and feeling stuck. How come? It makes them feel better about their
lives.
The same goes for your attitude about them. Again it’s a codependent relationship. You know it’s
unhealthy, you know it’s not doing anybody any good but you stay in a relationship. Believe it or not,
codependent relationships are all too common. And unfortunately, a lot of people use these relationships, as dysfunctional as they are, to give themselves an excuse to not put in the work, time, and sacrifice needed to achieve great success in their lives. They feel that they are going to be losing
something if they put in the time, work, and effort to achieve great success.
You might want to look at the people you’re hanging out with. As the old saying goes, it’s hard to soar like an eagle if you’re surrounded by turkeys. If you surround yourself with losers, then don’t expect to become a winner overnight. How come? Well, losers talk like losers. They send signals to each other and hold each other down. The worst thing in the world for a loser is to come across a winner.
A winner sees life as a series of possibilities and as an endless series of adventures. This type of talk, and worse yet, these types of ideas, scare the stuffing out of losers. At that point, they really are left with two choices. Either they believe these and have to turn their back on the life that they have built up for themselves, or they reject this as false. What do you think they’ll do? Of course, they will take the path of least resistance!
They are lazy but I’m not talking physically lazy. There are a lot of hard working losers out there.
Instead, they’re mentally lazy. Ultimately, if you want to reach the summit, you have to let go of the cave. You have to turn your back on the comfort of the valley and climb up the path to the summit which is filled with danger. There are all sorts of scary things along the path but that’s what makes it
exciting.
Unfortunately, losers have no way of knowing that. They couldn’t care less. They feed self-reinforcing lies to their friends. And if a friend of theirs decides to break free, that person is excluded. That person
is no longer “part of us.” You have to be able to choose to break free because not all your relationships are good for you.